CONNECTION OVER ERECTION

I lay in my bed one afternoon, setting aside 30 minutes for self pleasure, feeling soft everywhere. My heart, my body and my cock. I did not really feel like being erotic. I could feel the pressure I apply to myself in life with work and family responsibilities seeping through into my relationship to the erotic. I could feel myself trying to figure out how to ignite a spark of arousal in my genitals and was feeling stuck.

I lay there with my soft cock in my hand and this realization came to me. Connection over erection.  What does that mean? I ponder for a moment and reflected on the way I interact with other bodies in an erotic way and how I feel when I’m connecting with them. I notice that I have not offered the same depth of connection to myself, when exploring eros on my own, as I often do with a partner.

So as I was laying my bed I opened my heart to connect with my body and focused on the sensations and feelings I could find. As I opened up my awareness beyond stimulating my genitals, I felt love for myself. I felt a sense of calm and connection that was different than I could recall feeling within a self pleasure practice in the past. 

I noticed that there is a level of care that I offer in service to others that I have not been offering to myself. In a way I stepped out of myself in order to feel into myself. It was really a beautiful feeling. It was simple and yet so complex. I rose above myself, in a sense, and had a mystical experience of touching my own body with new hands. I lit up as my own body had my full attention and energy focused on it. I could feel myself.

Now without it being my goal this was very arousing and did spark an erection, but it was inspired by and sustained by a connection to my heart that permeated my entire practice that day and has shifted a patterns in how I touch and feel myself erotically.

This concept of connection before erection I now use as a teaching tool for anyone that is having trouble with arousal, either with themselves or with a partner. It’s a simple tool that shifts the focus from stimulating the genitals to stimulating the heart with elevated emotions which in turn has the potential to  light up your entire body, including your genitals.

I love myself enough to do this!